“I hear some of you complaining “women always say they want a nice guy.” I know lots of women — I’m even related to a few — and I can’t say I’ve ever heard any of them say that. I can’t prove it, but this sounds like one of those things stand-up comedians say about women and everyone else just repeats. I’ve also never known a woman who cries when she breaks a nail — although I’ve known a few who swear like a 15-year-old sailor in jail — and I’ve never had a woman ask me if her outfit made her look fat unless she actually wanted and subsequently appreciated my opinion. So either I’ve stumbled upon a secret trove of women who aren’t passive-aggressive sob machines, or you need to stop mistaking Dane Cook routines for peer-reviewed sociological studies.”—Lore Sjöberg, Alt Text: Taking Another Look at the Myth of the ‘Nice Guy’ (via babyspooks)
Wtf.. why is crocheting so damn hard? I taught myself how to knit.. I can’t seem to figure out crocheting though.. Sad face.
Crochet scares the living daylights out of me, it’s so weird how can anyone do it. JUST ONE HOOK. ONE. NOT TWO.??????????????????????
I find crocheting a heck of a lot easier than knitting, but it’s really just down to practice. But I still find two needles unwieldy, and keep wondering why I can’t just knit with one :) (but then I remember Tunisian crochet exists ;) )
Everyone wants to low ball me. I’ve had maybe 2 friends who don’t argue about prices with me and that’s even AFTER I sell to them for way cheaper than I should. Way cheaper.
I’m sick of people expecting me to give them free (or extremely cheap) stuff, especially people for whom I ALREADY made free things on birthdays and holidays. Like. Stop. You got a freebie for a special occasion but that doesn’t mean I’m your little slave knitter.
It’s not even just that, I’m tired of being used in general. I’m honestly a giving person and I do what I can for people but I’m so sick of getting screwed over by people who claim to be my friends. I’m literally in debt, to both my parents and the bank, and they know this yet they want free stuff?? Really?? I advertise that I SELL things for a reason. And they argue with me like “I don’t NEED this hat” as if they’re doing me a favor by buying it, how is it a favor if I’m not even going to make ANY money on my labor?? I don’t NEED your purchase at barely above yarn cost. Ungrateful shits.
And this has happened to me at least 10 times no joke. One girl even asked for a “Giant poncho for a Hanukkah gift” and we are barely even friends and haven’t even spoken in months until she found out I knit!! Fck that!!!
The same girl asked me for a hat for the cost of yarn. Like??? No. She wanted a hat for $7. When I (generously) told her I’d give it to her for $13 she rolled her eyes and got pissy. Fuck you.
I know what you mean. I was talking to a family friend just yesterday, saying I’d charge another friend £30 for a pair of socks which, yes, that’s expensive for socks, but it doesn’t even cover me financially for the time I’ll work on them. If I charged that, I’d be charging ~£80, and that’s ridiculous. That’s not even taking the cost of the yarn into account.
But people think they can do this with any creative venture - I see it as well being an artist - because they don’t understand that the biggest charge here is for the time we put into it, and they think we’re ripping them off. Which is far from true.
I have a theory that nobody actually works in Ikea. Their ‘employees’ are people that have gotten lost inside, and over the years they simply assimilate into the store. They find themselves wearing clothes that match the logo, they forget the need to eat or sleep. They are Ikea. Ikea is them. We are all Ikea.
I have spent most of my life in some form of therapy, and I am a MASTER of coping skills. I have lists of tips for every trigger and every self-destructive urge —but after my accident, I noticed that some of my tried-and-true coping mechanisms were not possible in my new physical condition. Since then, I have noticed the same problem on lists circulating on-line. So, I decided to write my own!
These suggestions are from a variety of lists found in my personal collection, the Dialectical Behavior Therapy manual, and on-line. Most of the things included I have actually tried and found effective myself.
I have broken them down into 3 categories: Pain, Anxiety, and Depression. The “Pain” list is designed for flare days. It holds the least physically-intensive ideas, things that can be done while completely bed-ridden, and ideas that can actually help reduce pain (or at least distract you from it).
Deep breathing exercises (inhale 5 seconds, hold 5 seconds, and exhale 5 seconds- carefully.)
Draw, paint, or color. (a tablet, Magna-doodle or even Etch-a-Sketch would work if you don’t want to use paper and crayons.)
Pet a dog/cat/furry creature.
Turn on (or off) all of the lights.
Sit outside or under a sunny-lamp, even just for a few moments.
Sip a warm drink.
Use this “video” to doodle with your mouse. Try it! Trust me!
Watch funny Youtube videos.
Read. (keep it light, easy to understand, and uplifting)
Contact a friend.
Stretch or do gentle yoga. (Don’t push. Be very careful. Know your limits.)
Immerse yourself in a computer or video game. Use headphones if possible.
Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel without judgment; observe and describe. (example: I feel angry. My feet hurt. I am frustrated. I feel sad. I wish I were healthier. My pain is at an 8. I feel upset. - notice the thoughts/feelings and let them pass. Don’t fixate, justify, or analyze. )
Write a list of things you are looking forward to, things you are grateful for, or things you are proud of.
looking at something - rain sound effect, move your mouse around to create different effects. (caution with this one—some of the links at the top of the page lead to websites that are NOT epilepsy/photosensitive friendly)